I’ve had a handful of women come to me and tell me that the reason why they think their partner’s are abusive with them is because they consume too much alcohol or they are always high. I agree because when one is drunk they can either be very happy or aggressive, nothing bothers them or they get irritated fairly easy. The same goes for people who consume drugs if they get very high they’ll be so relaxed that nothing will bother them or they can break out and become very violent. The problem is women already know that most people react violent when they are drunk, so why do you date a person who drinks or gets high on a daily basis? If it really bothers you then don’t go after the bad boys period! That’s the best solution for not being abused from a guy that blames his violent behavior on his addiction.
Here are a couple of facts about the effect of alcohol abuse in relationships:
- Alcohol is the number one date rape drug.
- More than three-quarters of female victims of nonfatal domestic violence reported that their assailant had been drinking or using drugs.
According to an article from about.com it is said that “there is no real research to indicate that alcoholism and drug abuse causes domestic violence. Although research indicates that among men who drink heavily, there is a higher rate of assaults resulting in injury, the majority of men classified as high-level drinkers do not abuse their partners. Also, the majority (76 percent) of physically abusive incidents occur in the absence of alcohol use.”
In a different article from dvsassanjuans.org it is said that “Alcohol use, especially binge and chronic drinking is strongly associated with battering. The statistical relationship between domestic violence and addiction is undeniable. In fact, the most severe incidents of battering occur when the abuser is under the influence of drugs and alcohol.”
What do you think? Are drugs and alcohol a cause for domestic violence/abusive relationships?